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Resources: Dating to Sex
Information and resources about friendships and relationships to support people to have a great life
Information about dating:
Mencap offer advice on dating and relationships.
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Luv2meetU aims to provide support to people with learning disabilities to widen their circle of friends and develop friendships and relationships – helping to combat isolation and loneliness and improve overall health and wellbeing.
They have branches in:
- North East Derbyshire
- Hum Tum is a service for the Asian community in Yorkshire
Find out more on their website >
Mates ‘n’ Dates
Mates ‘n’ Dates is a dating and friendship agency for adults with learning disabilities in Oxfordshire. They support adults with a learning disability to make new friends, to date and to develop relationships. Mates ‘n’ Dates has been open for 5 years and has over 260 members who live in Oxfordshire.
Visit the Mates 'n' Dates website >
Mingle is a group for adults with learning disabilities who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or cross dress. The mingle group is also run by Mates 'n' Dates. Visit the Mingle page on the Mates 'n' Dates website >
Dates-n-mates is Scotland’s national dating and friendship agency run by and for people with learning disabilities.
Visit the Dates-n-mates website >
Like 2 Meet
Like 2 Meet is a dating and friendship agency for adults with learning disabilities in South Wales.
We support adults with a learning disability to make new friends, to date and to develop relationships.
To join, you will need to be a member of either Vale People First, Bridgend People First, Cardiff or Newport People First and be over 18.
Find out more on the website of Vale People First >
Stars in the Sky Worcestershire
We arrange members only social events in Worcestershire, giving people opportunities to meet new friends and make relationships.
If you would like to join please ring us on 01562 820262 or download and complete a membership form from our website.
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Happily are a dating agency based in London which provides a safe environment for you to make new friends and start relationships. They are a not-for-profit Community Interest Company (CIC) who aims to bring people together from all over the city.
Go to the website >
Secret Loves, Hidden Lives? Exploring issues for men and women with learning difficulties who are gay, lesbian or bisexual
“Secret loves, hidden lives?” draws on first-hand accounts to explore the lives of gay, lesbian and bisexual people with learning difficulties. Based on a three year, qualitative research project carried out across the UK, the report describes people's experiences of 'coming out', relationships, discrimination and abuse. It also looks at responses from staff and services, meeting other lesbian, gay and bisexual people, and dreams for the future.
The following resources based on the research are available to download:
Easy to Read Summary >
Jan's Story. A photostory about a lesbian with learning
Phil's Story. A photostory about a gay man with learning difficulties >
A booklet about challenging homophobia and heterosexism for people with learning difficulties and the staff that support them >
Guide to tackle homophobic, biphobic and transphobic and bullying for young people with disabilities and those with special educational need
Pupils who have a disability or have learning difficulties are significantly more likely to experience homophobic bullying than their mainstream classmates, according to a charity which has produced a guide for teachers on tackling the problem.
The Anti-Bullying Alliance's new guide, 'Tackling homophobic, biphobic and transphobic, bullying for disabled children and young people and those with special educational needs' recommends that:
- Teachers must take reports of bullying seriously. Pupils often say that they are not believed when they report bullying
- Teachers deliver sex and relationships education that mentions both homosexual sex and also sex among people with disabilities
- Teachers discuss being LGBT in school, as well as being LGBT and with a disability
Download the Anti-Bullying Alliance >
Useful resources on LGBT identities, gender, sexuality, sexual health and relationships
This resource includes an extensive range of information relating to LGBT identities, gender, sexuality, sexual health and relationships including:
- Easy read and accessible resources
- General LGBT guides, resources and services
- Information and support for parents, carers and family members
- Further reading and resources for professionals
- Other resources
All the resources in this range of materials is provided by George Burrows from LGBT Health and Wellbeing.
Download the LGBT resources.
Accessible relationship booklets from CHANGE
Friendships and relationships: covers making friends and issues of trust, honesty and dealing with disagreements. Physical attraction is also covered and the booklet looks at developing a relationship, ending a relationship, being on your own, personal safety and making choices.
Lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans: covers sexuality, being lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or trans, talking to people about your sexuality, bullying and safe sex.
Buy the booklets from the CHANGE website >
Supporting people with learning disabilities to have relationships
An easy read guide for people with learning disabilities and supporters created by Rotherham Metropolitan Borough Council. It tells adults with learning disabilities about their rights to have a relationship.
View the guide >
Books Beyond Words - Falling in Love
This book traces the ups and downs of a relationship, until the couple is able to make a commitment to one another.
Readers can use this book as a starting point to explore their own relationships, and the role of families, friends and carers in supporting them.
Buy the book from the Beyond Words website >
Sex education and children and young people with an ASD
This webpage from the National Autistic Society contains advice for parents on how to talk to a child with ASD. It also gives a list of useful resources and suggested reading.
Visit the webpage >
Life Support Productions - DVD resources
A range of DVDs about sex and relationships for people with learning disabilities including 'You, Your Body & Sex', 'Jason’s Private World', 'Kylie’s Private World'.
The DVDs are aimed at young people with learning disabilities and cover a range of topics including the ways bodies change in the transition from childhood to adulthood, sex, relationships, contraception, consent and emotions linked to sex and relationships.
Buy the DVDs from the Life Support Productions website >
Information about sexuality, safe sex and contraception for people with learning disabilities
All the resources in this range of materials from the Family Planning Association (FPA) - including the award-winning 'All About Us' CD or DVD - can be used by teachers and other professionals working with people with learning disabilities, as well as by their parents and carers.
'All about us' and 'Talking together' can be used by people with learning disabilities, either with support or on their own.
Buy resources from the FPA website >
Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
CHANGE talked to a lot of people and this is what they found out about the views of young people with learning disabilities about sex and relationships.
The document can be downloaded for free and is also available as an accessible report.
Download the resource >
Resources on sex from CHANGE
Sex and masturbation: easy read booklet from CHANGE which explains what sex and masturbation are. Topics covered include deciding when to have sex, using contraception, oral & anal sex, privacy and consent.
Safe sex and contraception: easy read booklet which covers sexually transmitted infections, how to avoid them and where to go for treatment, and what contraception is – the different types, how it works and where to go for advice.
Buy the booklets from the CHANGE website >
Books Beyond Words - Loving Each Other Safely
This book aims to help young men understand their own sexuality, choose what to do in a steady relationship and know how to stay healthy. The book has advice on safer sex and a list of resources and places to go for help. Buy the book from Beyond Words >
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